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Ever wish that there was an easy way to relieve the tension in a relationship, whether with loved ones colleagues or ourselves? create some breathing space to reconnect with yourself and then each other? get 'un-stuck' when every word seems to be digging a deeper hole in your connection? find ways to make those challenging interactions more enjoyable and productive? have some insights on what you can do in any of these situations?

This training is a comprehensive response.

We use individual and group processes, games and exercises to explore:

  • The 4 habitual conflict styles: Avoidance, Confrontation, Passivity and Passive Aggression

  • Connecting and effective ways to respond to 'Hard-to-hear messages'

  • How to move 'the problem' from in between us by reuniting with shared purpose, values, and commitment to finding a solution that works for everyone. From that stance we can look at and hold 'the problem' together so its no longer between us, but in both our hands, thus allowing co-created solutions to our 'shared dilemma'


We will learn and practice several options for responding to any kind of interpersonal tension.

Each aims to restore peace and goodwill and to support transformation, learning and productive forward action.


The practices range from least to most human resources (time, people, energy, attention, etc) required, and so provide a simple 'Menu' to choose from in the moments when we can't think straight:

      > Self-connection

   > Supportive presence from someone not directly involved (in particular empathic listening)

    > Direct dialogue with someone with whom you are experiencing tension or conflict 

    > Supported dialogue - a third party contributes their presence as needed to support reconciliation, from silent witnessing to active facilitation (mediation) 

    > Group process - If the tension has more intensity or relevance for multiple people. Here, we will focus, on a simple yet profound process called 'Restorative Circles'.

Prior attendance of ‘Communicate to Connect’ and/or ‘Empathy Magic - The Art of Effective Listening’ is supportive but not necessary.

“I feel thankful and even blessed that Donal showed up in the community where I live to throw NVC and Restorative Circles as an anchor for all of us. I admire his professionalism and his commitment to be in service for human transformation as a mission driven by his heart.


I realized how much he’s been successful in working on himself reaching the point of being able to hold a space to facilitate processes for others and transmit the knowledge for others to heal themselves by themselves and with the support of the community.


I take Donal as an example of somebody who is manifesting with his own life and path the change we all want to see in this world. He is a good inspiration for me to use NVC tools in a daily life as well as considering a new perspective of conflict as an opportunity to grow and develop as a better human being."

- Loredana B., Cento e Oito Community, Portugal -

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